Comments on: Married men: your porn habit is an adultery habit

By: STurner

STurner — Thu, 12 Feb 2015 00:10:48 +0000

Hi Tom Hillson,
There are some foods that raise the testosterone levels – eggs, meat, chicken, (animals have their own hormones which are ingested when people ingest their meat plus then farmers feed these animals extra hormones and inject them also with hormone increasing drugs). Certain hormones injected into dairy cows cause them to produce larger quantities of milk. So you might want to decrease your intake of those hormone raising foods. Also, the power of God in times when you simply can’t resist in your own power, is there to call on in that time of need. I know that God removes those urges at that stage, but you must be willing to submit that to God. That is the most severe struggle, but the most wonderful when God removes that powerful urge. Praying you find this helpful.

By: lmoison

lmoison — Sun, 09 Feb 2014 04:19:16 +0000

Hi, Tom, I know very little about A Course in Miracles. It doesn’t interest me. What interests me is what Jesus said, “You will know the truth and the truth will set you free.” He also said, “So every good tree bears good fruit, but the bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot produce bad fruit, nor can a bad tree produce good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire.…” From these statements, I reason backwards and it looks like this: If I am not free, it’s because there’s something I believe that is not Truth. If a teaching is bearing bad fruit in my life, the teaching is bad. Your belief that God is outside you, way UP there, setting you up to fail, and then judging you for failing—is that setting you free? Is it bearing good fruit in your life?

By: Tom Hillson

Tom Hillson — Wed, 05 Feb 2014 05:55:32 +0000

Your response sounds to me like the new-age stuff in A Course In Miracles. It sounds so esoteric. But you’ve gotten beyond many of your struggles, so I value your advice. Unfortunately, I don’t understand it too much, from a practical perspective. But I thank you.

By: lmoison

lmoison — Fri, 31 Jan 2014 01:25:32 +0000

Tom, God is IN you. You are looking outside yourself, like a victim, expecting Someone you’re mad at, Someone you’re judging as an unfair bully, to rescue you. God is NOT out THERE. God is IN you. You can’t live beyond the God you believe in because you are created in the image and likeness of God. If you believe God is an unfair bully that is the image and likeness you create of yourself. Re-examine your thoughts about this and dump what doesn’t serve you.

By: Tom Hillson

Tom Hillson — Thu, 16 Jan 2014 06:52:54 +0000

How does God come into the picture though? All the years I’ve struggled I’ve turned to God for help. Where is that help? How come prayer doesn’t help? What part does God play in this, if any?

By: lmoison

lmoison — Mon, 13 Jan 2014 13:44:28 +0000

Tom, why is your focus is on whether or not God is “fair” instead of on “how can I change so I don’t live with regrets”? You do realize that there are many, many men who successfully and happily live without porn?

By: Tom Hillson

Tom Hillson — Mon, 13 Jan 2014 05:08:20 +0000

Laurie,

Things have quieted down now after the holidays. Hope you had a great Xmas and New Year’s. Thanks for your response again.

I really don’t believe I’m powerless to make choices other than lust/porn/masturbation. But it’s very, very, very to the 100th power, hard oftentimes. It seems from your book and your responses to me that your feeling is “Ok, it’s hard. Perhaps much harder for men than for women, but I won’t admit that now like I didn’t admit it in my book. If I were to admit it, then I might be admitting that God is perhaps unfair, and I will not imply that. But God gives all of us power through His Holy Spirit to overcome, so I will only focus on that.”

You realize this is a tough pill to swallow, don’t you? I’m not saying that your attitude is necessarily a bad one, but it’s a tough pill to swallow nonetheless. Because I can’t see how God is not being unfair to men. Let’s say God made an arbitrary rule that all people will walk at a level 5’8″ or below. Now, for most women, this is no problem at all. They just walk as normal. But, for most men, they need to always crouch when they walk, or they need to roll around in a chair, so they don’t break this rule. It’s a strange scenario I’m painting, but I think it shows the point I’m trying to make on divine fairness.

As for saying I have dominion over sin as a Christian, are you saying that a non-Christian cannot defeat their sins?

Why did you, in general, gloss over gender differences in your book?

I hope I’m not offending you in any way with this message. It’s just the honest questions of my heart and mind.

Thank you,
Tom

By: lmoison

lmoison — Mon, 23 Dec 2013 13:49:18 +0000

Hi, Tom, As you’re thinking about your reply, please meditate on these words from Jesus, “It is done unto you as you believe,” and their corollary from Henry Ford, “If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing you’re right.” Have a blessed Christmas! Laurie

By: lmoison

lmoison — Mon, 23 Dec 2013 02:30:44 +0000

Merry Christmas to you, Tom!!

By: Tom Hillson

Tom Hillson — Sun, 22 Dec 2013 16:44:11 +0000

Oh no, I know my post isn’t automatically visible. It’s just that I saw it going from awaiting approval to missing, so I thought you just deleted it and weren’t going to respond.

Thanks for answering my question. I’ll respond when I get some time. Merry Xmas!